So my daughter just heard that her “Winter Formal” dance for the 5th and 6th years has been cancelled. I’ve been torn on this for weeks, and hugely stressed about it tbh. Also tbh, I’m relieved, and not a little guilty about that either.
The school had refused to help with it which seemed to me be the absolutely least safe thing to do in that instance. Regardless, the 6th years that were organising it had done an impressive job and it looked like it was going to be a good, safe event; distancing was in place, as was mask wearing. A single spark of fun after a long period of none.
Didn’t stop me worrying about both her first big night out (something I’d been dreading for ohhh 16 years ) but also the inherent risks it brings right now. But these kids are somewhat less at risk and less risky than we are, or at least they were. And they’ve had the shittiest time.
I can’t imagine being a teenager right now. I was out and about constantly at their age. It’s such an important time, and it’s changed so rapidly for them.
I was preparing myself for a difficult conversation with her about doing the right thing if it really was going to go ahead, but in the end I wouldn’t have stopped her. She’s 16, she’s got a mind of her own; and tbh she’s had real anxiety issues going back to school this year as she was truly terrified of bringing it back to us. So she wasn’t likely to take risks and frankly, I want her to enjoy life.
Getting vaccinated was a big deal for all three of us and it really felt like she could start to experience at least a shadow of what young life should be. So omicron is a real kick in the proverbials. I’m sure it is for all of us, but we also have a generation of kids for whom everything has been on pause whilst time passes so slowly.
I’m not sure there’s anything behind this post other than a rant and a moan, about parenting being fucking hard at the best of times and doubly so right now; and about a generation of young people who I hope get to make up for lost time; and anger towards a cohort of grown ups who should know better, who make it worse for everyone because they’re a bunch of selfish c**ts.
Edit: And admiration, for a bunch of hard working self starting kids who decided it was safer for everyone and their families to just bin it all and be safe.